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Addiction & Recovery Substance Abuse
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I have a little over 2 years of sobriety and I am a member of AA.

I have been making more of an effort to reach out to newcomers in the program in order to help my own sobriety.

I recently met a man who has ~30 days and is a chronic relapser.

He lives with his girlfriend and he called me today and told me that their relationship is affecting his sobriety...and asked if he could stay with me for a night or two.

I know the big book talks about letting newly sober men couch surf, etc...

I said no...and I feel terrible about it. I let him know that if there was anything else I could do to help him, I would. I'm just not comfortable with someone I recently met staying at my house.

Anyone else with any experience with this?

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Hey Big Mike, I have not experienced this but if you do not wish for him to stay at your house that is ok. If you are feeling terrible about it and you have a sponsor then I suggest you talk to them about it. There have been some I have heard say in meetings that because of their job and working alot of hours they are not able to sponsor anyone at the time. They said they talked to their sponsor about it and their sponsor said it was ok and that maybe later on in life when they had free time they could do so then. In the meantime they said that they do reach out as much as possible to help others in recovery. We all have our own parts that we do.