So I had a little too much to drink last night and I went to a dance party. It was soooo much fun (considering partying is a pretty rare occasion for me). But in the car on the way over I told a girl i've known for two weeks about everything. I was so mad and couldn't believe I told her. I knew I was going to eventually but it was just way too soon for what I would have hoped for. She hasn't mentioned it again although she told me one of her secrets too. So I'm sure it's aukward for her so neither one of are going to bring it up. Gah I just freaked out when I realized what I'd said...although it was a hell of a lot easier after a few drinks...I just hope she ignores what I said. Hope everyone had a good weekend
I had a bulimic friend who was at a party the first week of college and was with a bunch of her new friends drinking, and she blurted out that she was bulimic. She freaked out in the morning about it and most people didn't remember. One person did and eventually talked to her about it- but everything ended up okay! Are you at all relieved she knows now?
I know it seems weird telling someone so secret and so personal but it lifts a weight off your shoulders. Over the past 2 weeks I have told my boyfriend I relapsed, my best friend, my roommate, and a nurse practitioner, and next on my list is my mom. Everything is going to be fine. And now that she knows, maybe you'll someday gain the courage to talk about it. Its nice taking some weight off your shoulders :)
allee
It does but i'm afraid she will judge me when I tell her what I do and I just hate going into details with people that don't understand. It stresses me out. Plus I don't know what she would do/react if it gets brought up. Is she going to tell the floor supervisor or try to get me to tell my parents? I just hate the fact that I couldn't control myself and I blurted it out. That is why I don't party much. I'm not sure how this one is going to turn out. If she was like accepting and like its okay and careing and stuff right away then I would feel better. In a way it is a weight off my shoulders, and in a way it's not...thanks for responding !!
Most of the time- actually 100% of the time I have told someone, they were accepting and supportive! They most likely won't make you tell anyone unless you are ready to. I know not everytime you tell someone it goes the same, but from my personal experience of telling others, which I have done quite a few times over the past 3 years, they are accepting and would never make you tell someone else unless you were ready.
I hope that helps ease your mind a little
allee
It does, believe me. Just knowing there is someone out there that can understand how I feel puts my mind at ease. I have yet to seek help at all for my ED but i'm trying to find the courage. Just to know there is someone hear to listen has helped me gather my thoughts and start to really believe that It's not just something that is going to go away. Thank youuu
sonrisas --did you mean you told her of your ED? i think it is actually great you opened up and this is actually a good thing
thinking of you!!!
hugz
maureen
Thats exactly what I mean Maureen. I hope this has a good outcome...thanks for the hugs!!! I told Jan I think it was once that I LOVE HUGS!
well , then a big hug for you!
we should all hug each other more often....
instead of hate
love,
maureen
Yay...for hugs! Sonrisas.....try not to worry and move on...take care..Jan ♥
Sonrisas,
I think that speaks more of your own shame about your ED than your new friend's judgement... :) You have NOTHING to be ashamed of, but I know that's hard to accept... You'll get there... I hope your friend responds positively, too... I have had good and bad reactions from others... But regardless of the outcome, you can be proud of yourself for TRUSTING and sharing your truth. ♥
Much love to you,
Jen
Thanks Jan Jen and Maureen. I'm almost hoeing she wants to help me. I've tried so hard to get myself to see a unidoc but i'm too scared to go. Maybe she can help...Think Positively!