My closest girlfriend and I were having a conversation regarding our online dating experience as of late and we are both coming across the same issues. I've also asked numerous other women who I know are online dating about their experiences and they are going through the same thing. Men will contact us, we'll message nicely back-and-forth, they'll either ask for our number so that we can chat on the phone and/or ask to meet in person. Then, they'll completely fall off the face earth. Some will reappear at some point (one to two weeks later on average) and other completely disappear.
Now, my theory is that there are too many choices and while they're in communication with us, other choices are popping up for them. Whether they're searching and come across other women that they find attractive or women contact them.
Do you think that online dating is feeding into our singles epidemic [oh, I believe that there's a serious epidemic], because there are just too many choices, thus making it harder to commit?
I gotta stand up for the guys here. I might have got the wrong message. Remember the man in the relationship has hopes and fears also. If you message and call him also its cool. In times of uncertainity simple politeness makes many men wait for you to contact them incase you have moved on.. or worse you are in a relationship and he doesnt want to bring suspicion into that.
If that base is covered. I know many men(and women also) are like kids in a candy store trying to pick the flavor they like the best. However, if you wont mind the comparison, there are many like me. I am a pipe smoker. You dont compare one pipe tobacco to another. You get a couple of ounces. Toast the top, pack down and light for a bit of enjoyment. You seek all the flavors and tones of that tobacco to see if it fits you. If it doesnt you are totally honest and say nope. If it does you kick back and enjoy and see where the relationship ends (by ending I mean where you take eachother along the path of life).. may the path to eternity be long and filled with truth.
Ststephenmc, thank you so much for your wonderful insight. Per usual, you bring so much wisdom. I would love to share your sentiments with my friends, as I think that it would help bring so much clarity. I believe that there is someone for everyone and when there's a certain something lacking, then that person will move on. I guess I'd rather know right off the bat, then to drag things on unnecessarily.
The wrong ones will slip off and away, and the right one will stick!