I know that my fiance who happens to also be my ex-husband have our mental problems, but I am getting sick and tired of his naming calling. He says he doesn't mean it and that when he is upset he tries to hurt me, but my feelings still get hurt. I usually don't call him names unless he has started it. I just need to find a way to get the harsh words to stop. It is childish on my part to join in, but if he does it to me I want to let him know how it feels. I also don't mean them either. We had our reasons for why I divorced him in the first place, and I don't want to leave him again because of our son who was conceived after we got back together again. I don't want him to be split between two parents like I was. How can we let the past remain in the past and start over, truly?
i would make an agreement that neither one would call eachother names. maybe go to therapy to learn how to communicate properly. it sounds like he just has never learned how to communicate properly and tell how he feels in the right way. its not an excuse but maybe a reason. hope this helps