My heart is sick right now. I finally did it, I kicked him to the curb. I really could use a friend right now. I know it will be better, but somehow, I feel worse at the moment:(
Hi I here if you want to chat. Break ups are always hard in the begin, but It will get better. Give it time.
You've got lots of friends here....go for it.
All my strengths
April
i know how you feel. i am still not fully healed after getting out of a two year relationship. here if you want to talk!
You know what got me to do it? I was listening to a friend talk about all the things her bf was doing and how she kept taking him back, all the while losing her self esteem and wearing down. I thought to myself, why do us women tolerate **** like this from low life ppl? We are just teaching them that it's okay to treat us this way and we will just continue to take it! NO!!!
We have to teach these ppl that it's NOT okay to treat someone that way! We will not tolerate being used, lied to, verbally or physically abused!!!!! We will, we can, find someone who compliments us and treats us well. We have to start by kicking the losers to the curb and treating ourselves well!! It all starts with self love and only then, will we find someone who is worthwhile:)
Sending my strength to all you single women out there, who are staying in unhealthy relationships because they think it's the best they can do. YOU CAN DO BETTER!!!! Have strength to change your life for the better and TEACH PPL HOW TO TREAT YOU!!!;) Loves, Manic
Maniclove,
You women do have a tough road to travel but in reflection of what you were saying it is too bad that there are women out there that are in bad relationships but are too afraid to look for a better one. I am 38 and my problem is quite the different in comparison: I was married for 6 years, a mistake I realized on the honeymoon. My issues lie that I am a good person and would not treat girls little lone a GF badly, but I am too timid, in the get to know process, to put myself out there in my true light. I am far from Timid on any other issue than dating or more aptly, getting into a relationship. I feel that the ony guys that get noticed are the ones that treat girls badly. Now you know my issue, I’m sure I have others but they all center around putting myself out there in my true light.
Stay strong. I left my husband numerous times and kept going back for more because I believed he changed. My kids are what gave me my wake up call. I felt I was a big girl I could handle him degrading me and controlling everything as long as he was a good father to our children. Then I saw how he was treating the kids, and when my oldest was able to communicate how she hated being home with Daddy. Looking back on it now I wonder what the hell I was thinking, my Daddy raised me better then to be "anyones *****".
It hurt to leave and sometimes it still hurts, but it hurts now because I think how stupid was I and what my kids went through.
Just stay strong and remember no one changes overnight.
I was married 18 yrs and finally stood up to my ex and his abusive behavior. There were Red flags even when we were datieng but I was young and naive and kept takeing him back.
He would go to the strip parlors all the time. I was hurt over and over several times when he was seeing other girls behind my back ( this was while we were dating) and I was stupid enough to take him back.
Then we got married and he was so controling and emotionally abusive..sexually abusive and financially controlling.
I finally was educated on all forms of abuse and stopped it and got out.
Its hard but I know it was the right thing to do.
They don't change because they don't see themselves as abusive.
No One deserves to be treated abusively we derserve better.
SO MUCH better!
Anonymousgirl has experienced & learned alot & very correct THEY dont see themselves as abusive & also were raised directly/indirectly WRONG and/or have mental issues that they should be trying to learn about/manage & havent.
Unfortunately women by nature/nuture feel/think they can help/fix/remedy/guide the situation & find out all too many times that not everyone can or wants to be helped.
Vicious cycle & is up to us to change it, so start now w/the next generation of children before its repeated again.