I've never really been good at making friends, so I've been lonely most of my life. Most of the friends I've made took a process of a year or 2 so that they could really get to know me- through classes, other friends, etc. But now I find myself at 24 yrs. old having graduated college a couple of years ago, with very few friends around me. Those who are friends (about 2 people) are usually too caught up in their relationship or are on the other side of the continent.
I'm trying to put myself out there more, but again because it usually takes a while for people to warm up to me, I get very little if any results... I don't know, maybe I'm just unfriendable. :-/ No matter how friendly and open and "myself" as everyone says... nothing really sticks.
I'm tired of being alone. I've been alone most of my life and it fucking sucks. Sometimes I wondered if my parents died, would there be anyone else who gave a **** that I was alive?
Cat714 - i am so sorry that you feel lonely, and i am sure that people care about you. Starting over after college is tough. i know i went through a transition for a few years trying to find a solid group of friends, and it was a lot of trial and error. The one thing i would do differently would be to try and find a hobby or go to things that were interesting so i could find people with similar interests. Have you tried joining a club or maybe doing a sport? i know a girl who joined a volleyball club that plays once a week and she met people through there. Keep trying. it sucks that it takes so long but you will find a good place and soon good friends.
Thanks Victoria. I’m taking some classes right now and hoping to meet people there… We’ll see how it goes? On one hand I’m used to being alone… but on the other hand I really don’t like being alone. I’m going to try and find a volleyball group to play with (I played back in high school). Just keep swimming, right?
its hard to find friends who are like minded when u leave college.
with the mobile world and often having to move area to work/live we find our network reduced to the phone/net etc.
victoria has some good ideas for u to try, but most of us dont have more friends than we have fingers on one hand that we call good friends and mine are dying out slowly we were a group of four now we are a group of three so it works both ends of the spectrum sadly.
i have taken to going to a coffee bar just to chat to people and be sociable incase i forget the skills i use to have
cat that sounds great, i am glad that you are trying that and going out for volleyball. and i agree with domestic that we usually can count our friends on one hand and those groups can grown and get smaller and keep changing as the years go on. I hope that you have fun with class and you find a great volleyball group. Keep trying and you will get there!
Thank you guys. :)
Yeah, I can understand why it's harder after college... I guess what really makes me feel upset is the frustration of trying to make friends, and not accomplishing much if anything at all. Not even close friends... just someone you can call up to go do something. I was in Korea for a year, and was quite often meeting new people- and it definitely helped take away the loneliness- but it would've been nice to build something closer than acquaintances out of all the people I met. At least I got to work on my social skills...
But the classes I'm taking definitely are helping because I at least get to socialize, and heck it's only the first week so I guess we'll see what happens!
Thank you again guys... your words help me a lot and give me comfort and strength... Sorry if that's really cheesy... lol
I’m taking some classes right now and hoping to meet people there… We’ll see how it goes? On one hand I’m used to being alone… but on the other hand I really don’t like being alone. I’m going to try and find a volleyball group to play with (I played back in high school). Just keep swimming, right?