We are taught to put our needs and desires last and focus on those we love. If we put ourselves first we are viewed as selfish and self absorbed. However, when we talk about mental health, we need to reframe selfishness as a form of self-care and self-preservation. It’s about recognizing and addressing your needs to maintain a healthy mind and body. You are a priority, not an afterthought.
The Importance of Self-Care
Self-care is a fundamental aspect of mental health. It involves taking the time to do things that nurture your physical, mental, and emotional well-being. Sometimes, this means saying no to others to say yes to yourself. Whether it’s taking a mental health day, doing something frivolous, or simply resting, self-care is a vital part of staying mentally healthy.
Setting Boundaries
Being selfish sometimes means setting boundaries to protect your energy and mental space. This can include limiting time with people who drain your energy, saying no to additional responsibilities, or stepping back from situations that cause stress. Setting these boundaries is crucial for maintaining mental equilibrium and ensuring you’re not overextending yourself.
Preventing Burnout
We have been sold a lie, which is, we always have to be busy and laziness is a sin. In our culture of constant productivity, burnout is a real and pressing issue. Being selfish by prioritizing your mental health can help prevent burnout. It’s important to recognize the signs of overexertion and take steps to address them by taking breaks, delegating tasks, saying “no” to invitations and seeking support when needed.
The Ripple Effect of Self-Prioritization
When you take care of your mental health, the benefits extend beyond yourself. You’re likely to be more present and supportive in your relationships, more productive in your work, and more engaged in your community. By prioritizing your mental health, you’re setting a positive example for others to do the same.
Embracing Self-Compassion
Being selfish for your mental health is also an act of self-compassion. It means treating yourself with kindness, understanding, and forgiveness, especially during challenging times. Self-compassion fosters a healthier mental state, enabling you to cope with life more effectively.
Being selfish for your mental health is not only okay but necessary. It allows you to recharge, set boundaries, prevent burnout, and cultivate a more compassionate relationship with yourself. By prioritizing your mental well-being, you’re better equipped to handle life and its challenges. Remember, taking care of yourself isn’t just a personal benefit—it’s a gift to everyone in your life.
All the best,
SG